I think it's about time I started to learn some decent people skills. Apparently people are offended by various things that I'm accustomed to doing. When I went for my photog outing, we had some kind of dinner break, and it was 'free and easy' so we could go around and find our own food. So I went off myself to get some grub, and the rest of the group were a little ticked off that I went off alone. Funneh. I mean, free and easy right?! Anyway, afterward, when I met back with the team, the teachers that were accompanying us lectured me, saying something about having people skills will help me in future as a leader.
Yeah then over the week I was being pretty enthusiastic over ISLE stuff, making some designs and stuff, and I sent this crude proposal to all my team mates, hoping for some decent response since the logo was already overdue and was... uhh... not really up to my expectations***(note tact!), but I guess other people weren't as concerned with the design of the logo and team name as I was. So I got a little agitated and sent out an angry (sounding) sms. Which I think is a liiiittle too rude to post up here just in case some people (teachers mostly) find it inappropriate. But here's the proposal:
PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS IS JUST A PITCH (proposal)!!! You don't HAVE to choose any design right now but it's definitely a plus if you do. Burn me if you want to, but I am strongly against having a pink heart with doraemon arms hugging itself on the back of my shirt when I go for the expedition. We can do better than that.
Obviously, if we want things to be done BY the next meeting, we have to be proactive even when we're not having meetings. So here I'm making my contribution.
If you've already quit and didn't want to receive this email, well I apologise because I couldn't remember who quit and who didn't, so I painstakingly copied and pasted everything from the old contact list here.
Anyway comments are not just welcome, comments are COMPULSORY. Lol no lah I appreciate if you drop comments
yeahhhhhh... I also posted this on the ISLE blog tagboard:
"The contact list is screw'd"
(I don't think these were the worst. The sms.... hahahhaaa) Thinking back, It feels like I did it out of frustration, rather than for anything else at all. It
is inappropriate. If any of you ISLE mates read this blog at all, I am sincerely sorry if hurt your feelings with my crude remarks, I'm aware of it and I am willing to change. So much so that I'll be writing a guide to establishing relationships with peers.
LESSON ONE: TACT!
Which in brief means - DON'T SPEAK YOUR F*CKIN' MIND. People don't like that. Hear what you're about to say in your head first, then translate all strong, emotive words to milder descriptors.
LESSON TWO: STAY WITH THE PACK.
I have no idea how this works (yet). But it seems that the more you stay with the group, the easier it is to build relationships with your peers.
Well that's all I got so far. Hahaaa. There's this serious vacuum in my brain where my emotional centre used to be. Actually I never really learned how to work with new people in VS at all. In fact, in VS I only worked with people I was familiar with. Which explains for my severe lack of (new)people skills.